pregnancy

Current Top 3 Pregnancy Pet Peeves

Everyone knows that during pregnancy, we’re all a bit more sensitive and there are things that bother us a bit more now. These are my current top three pet peeves (I’m sure the list will grow as my stomach grows).

  1. One thing that drives me nuts is people touching my stomach, or asking to and not even waiting for an answer. I’m sorry but who gave you the right to touch me? Just because there is a baby growing in a belly does not give you the right to touch someone. I normally hate being touched to begin with as I am super sensitive, so, please, unless I tell you to do so, do not touch my stomach or any other pregnant woman’s stomach. It doesn’t matter if you’re family or friends (especially a random stranger!), always ask and wait for a response. If you see that they’re hesitant or uneasy at all, just don’t do it. Some moms may feel guilted into it and even though they’ve said yes, they’re still uncomfortable with it. You wouldn’t go up to someone and just pat their stomach now would you? Growing a baby shouldn’t change that, and the same goes for when the baby is born. Do not touch people’s babies without their permission. They are so much more susceptible to diseases and sicknesses that you unknowingly carry around with you all of the time. Respect the parents’ wishes and their baby’s health. I just know that the belly touching will drive me crazy as I get bigger. It hasn’t happened too much yet, as I’m not showing much, which leads me to my next pet peeve.
  2. As you may or may not know, I am a first time mom or FTM in the pregnancy community. As a FTM my uterine muscles are tighter and don’t stretch as easily. I also have a long torso which gives my uterus more space to grow in, and a retroverted uterus (which essentially means that my uterus tilts backward instead of leaning forward). All of this adds up to me not showing much. I’m twenty weeks currently and I have a small bump. I can certainly see the difference, especially when I look at pictures from before, but there are many who don’t see it yet. I’ve been able to hide it from my students, but that’s because the school uniforms that we have to wear aren’t form fitting at all, and I always wear a sweater on top of it as well. What’s happening now is that people have known I’m pregnant for quite some time now, and I feel like they expect a huge bump from me. I’m not due til April, so sorry folks that’s not happening yet. It frustrates and upsets me though when people say I don’t look pregnant at all or when they say something like, “Where’s the bump? There’s no baby there. Are you sure you’re even pregnant?” That last comment really gets to me. My anxiety is already high enough to begin with. I do not need you to make me stress more or make me feel bad about not having a bump. I cannot control how big my bump is, and even though I am twenty weeks it is still hard to process that I’m pregnant. It’s still early; give my stomach time to expand. The doctor told me that she is measuring perfectly and is right in the smack dab middle of average size and weight (a long sweet potato and 12 oz).
  3. Another pet peeve that I know might sound silly to some is when people ask me how the baby is. Unless I have just had an ultrasound that day, I cannot tell you. There is no window into my uterus. I cannot see what is going on in there. Trust me, I wish I knew. More than likely, everything is good, but the fact that I can’t answer for sure and that it’s something I’m constantly worrying about. I wish I had an at home ultrasound machine so I could constantly check on her to let you and myself know. I do have an at home fetal doppler so that I can hear her heartbeat, and that helps relieve some of my anxiety, but that doesn’t tell me how she’s developing. It’ll be easier once she is a bit bigger and I can feel her more clearly. At the moment it’s still hard to differentiate her movements from gas. I know that people mean well when they ask me this, but it just stresses me out more.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m absolutely loving being pregnant, and I am beyond happy. We are only human though, and we all have pet peeves. What about you? If you’re pregnant can you relate? Or how did you feel when you were pregnant? What are or were some of your pet peeves?

My little love – 20 weeks
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Just Can’t Do It

Now that I’m just hitting 20 weeks (cue Bon Jovi, “Wooooah we’re halfway there….”) , I’ve noticed that there a few things that I cannot do or that I struggle to do. My bump may still be little, but she is sure changing how I move and go about my day.

Mini bump says, “Hi!”

-Bending over / down: Oh my, goodness! You never realize how often you have to bend to do something until you’re pregnant. Bending to pick stuff up, bending to do laundry, bending to feed the cats, or clean up something on the floor, bending to pick up my bag, or vacuum. I’ve since learned that I must squat instead, but I still haven’t gotten in the habit of doing it. It’s like I can feel her there and if I bend, I feel like I’m squishing her and it’s just uncomfortable. This is driving me nuts when I’m sitting, leaning over, as well as, of course, trying to put on my shoes – a task that I deem will be impossible in a few months..

-Walk: Ok, ok, I can walk, but not like I used to be able to. I’m constantly out of breath and it’s driving me nuts. Whenever I go for walks after work (or to work) or on the weekends, I am constantly out of breath. I find myself having to slow down, pause for a bit, then continue. Talk about frustrating. The doctor did tell me that my lung capacity would go down as I grew this munchkin in my belly but talk about frustrating.

-Stand for a longer period: This is honestly so annoying and is making me seem like the laziest teacher ever! I should be up on my feet more often, but even after only five minutes of standing up, teaching, just being on my feet at all, the only thing that I feel like doing is sitting down. I have sat down so much this year that my kids probably think that my bottom is glued to my seat (I wish theirs were). I’m glad that I still walk to and from work still because otherwise I’d barely get any steps in.

-Deal with whining or anything of the sort: My mood the past couple months has definitely made me less tolerant of my students’ or anyone’s whining, pettiness, drama, etc. I shut it down the second it happens in the classroom. I swear the kids think I’m the meanest teacher this year. I just don’t have the time for it, nor do I want to deal with any added stress.

-Handle emotions: Everything at this point makes me want to cry. I normally cry at the drop of a pin, but it’s worse now if that’s possible. Not even just at sad things in movies or shows; anything that’s emotional, I’ll cry. The other day, one of my student’s parents brought in her newborn when she was picking up her son, and I had to hold back tears because the baby was so cute. I actually had to walk away. Talk about having my hormones in overdrive right now.

-Stop eating: This second trimester, I have not been able to stop eating. I’ll eat a bagel in the morning for breakfast, whatever my main lunch is plus a about four other snacks, then I grab a snack when the kids are snacking during the after school program, I’ll eat a big dinner when I go home, and even after that I’m not done, because I’ll be hungry again in hour so I end up eating some more things; usually I’ll have fruit, cheese, or pickles…. Or a combination of everything else. I haven’t had any particular cravings for anything weird yet, but once I get something in my mind that I feel like having or that I want to have, I need to have it, and I won’t be satisfied until I eat it. I’ve only gained a couple of pounds so far though, so we’ll see what happens. My stomach is definitely rounder, but not enough that my students can tell that I’m pregnant yet (I’ll probably tell them after Thanksgiving break); they probably think that I’ve just gained a few pounds from all the bagels that I’ve been eating. That’s been me my whole life though; I’ve always had a fast metabolism so now with that plus the baby sucking in all my calories, I’m just in a constant state of hunger.

What are some things that you noticed you couldn’t stand or couldn’t do anymore while you were pregnant? Anything that pertained to your job? How long did it last and how much of an inconvenience was it?